You met that “special” someone, the one that you could see yourself with for a long time. At first it’s all sunshine and rainbows. You can’t concentrate at work, you can’t sleep —all because you’re so in love. Then as time passes, that once cute habit where he plays with his hair is now so irritating. You two begin to bicker and get into full-blown arguments. What happened? You were so in love…
According to Gary Chapman in his best-selling book, The Five Love Languages, the first blissful stage where you are “in love” only typically lasts around two years. After that, a relationship lands firmly back to planet Earth and requires real work to keep the romance alive. Another reason you might be bickering is that you probably aren’t speaking the same love language.
I recently wrote a post about Understanding the Five Love Languages on HealthyPlace.com. Here is an excerpt:
He thinks he’s showing you love by buying you flowers. You think flowers are better left in the garden and just want him to help you fix the kitchen sink. In love language terms, he may as well be speaking Swahili to you. While his efforts at romance are admirable, he’s wasting his money on Gifts while he really should be engaging in Acts of Service.
To read the full article, check out my blog, The Unlocked Life on HealthyPlace.com.
